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(Gen. 2:18-24) (Eph. 5:21-33)

It is interesting to note that in just about every career, job, or interest that we are involved in, it requires usually some type of training or education. If we plan some day to become a lawyer, that individual must go through 4 years of undergraduate degree work and then spend several more years in law school, and pass the bar examine before they are qualified to become a bonafide lawyer. In case of becoming a medical doctor; 4 years of undergraduate work is required, with a certain grade point average needing to be maintained, then one must take several test to enter into a medical school and then spend about 4 years working on their medical degree. But not only that, one must also spend numerous of hours in an internship, before they become a bonafide medical physician. In all these cases when it comes to a vocation, we all must get some kind of training or education.

It is incredible to me that in the process of making one of the biggest decisions in our life, getting married, no training or education is required, for this life long commitment.

        No wonder the institution of marriage and its commitment has been disrespected and brought down to meaning nothing.

        No wonder half of the marriages in a given year will end up in divorce court.

        No wonder we have so many dysfunctional families today

        No wonder the ideal of commitment for a man or woman is being thrown out the window.

        No wonder there are so many troubled relationships in our world today, because before making the decision to get married people are not getting any formal education. It is not that the training is not available prior to getting married, but people are just not going to get the training.

 

(Pr. 29:18)

“Where there is no vision, the people perish:

but he that keepeth the law, happy is he.”

 

Let me also add, that there is some in the church that want God to send them a mate, but will not come and get Godly training. You must understand that God does not bless until we are prepared for the blessing. Some want God to send them a jewel, but they are not preparing themselves to become qualified to receive a jewel from the Lord. The bible says, “God will not cast his pearls to the swine.” Some want God to send them a commitment to love them until death, but they will not make a commitment to God, either to live for him, attend any formal training on the development of relationships, or make a commitment to working in a position in the Church. Let us always remember preparation always precedes promise. .”

(II Tim. 2:21)

If a man therefore purge himself from these, he shall be a vessel unto honour, sanctified, and meet for the master's use, and prepared unto every good work.”

 

          The Israelites wanted water in a barren land and God came to them through the voice of Elisha and told them to dig a ditch first, and he would cause it to rain. If you want it to rain, get prepared by digging a ditch. (2 Kgs. 3:14-20)

 

  • It didn’t rain in the life of Noah for forty days and forty nights, until Noah finished building an ark. (Gen. 7:1-10)

 

  • Before the ten virgins could be apart of the wedding celebration they had to make sure that they had oil in their lamps. So always remember in whatever you get involved in, if you want the blessings of the Lord upon it, get ready through training or education to be blessed. (Matt. 25:1-13)

 

Therefore, If you want more money, get your financial house in order and God will case money to rain in your life.

Therefore, if you want a home, go buy some books on how to buy a home and take care of a home, get ready for your home.

Therefore, if you want a husband from God or a wife from God, go get involved in some training that teaches you what God requires in Holy Matrimony.

 

(Mk. 10:9)

“What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.”

 

In the beginning after God had created heaven and earth, God created Man (Adam), and sent him forth into the world to subdue, and to have dominion over every living thing. For years this is what man did, he spent the majority of his time while single, taking care of his place. He had no time to think about getting married, he was taking care of his place. He was being blessed tremendously because he was busy taking care of his place. This place is the place or position God had placed Adam in until God wanted to change his status and position in life. As long as Adam stayed in his place, God was blessing him spiritually, materially, financially, and in every way. One of the biggest dilemmas that God has with us is that we have a tendency to get out of our place. We see the head, and with covet to be the head. We see the hand and we covet to be the hand. We see the mouth being lauded for its much speaking so we covet to be the mouth, and we get out of our place trying to be something that God has not called us to be.

 

(I Cor. 12:12-18)

“For as the body is one, and hath many members, and all the members of that one body, being many, are one body: so also is Christ. For by one Spirit are we all baptized into one body, whether we be Jews or Gentiles, whether we be bond or free; and have been all made to drink into one Spirit. For the body is not one member, but many.  If the foot shall say, Because I am not the hand, I am not of the body; is it therefore not of the body?  And if the ear shall say, Because I am not the eye, I am not of the body; is it therefore not of the body?  If the whole body were an eye, where were the hearing? If the whole were hearing, where were the smelling? But now hath God set the members every one of them in the body, as it hath pleased him.”

 

 

As long as Adam was single, all he could do was worship God and to get closer to God, because he had no one else that he could get close to. May I say when we are single or all alone to ourselves that is our time to get closer to God.

 

(Jam. 4:8)

Draw nigh to God, and he will draw nigh to you.”\

 

“Close to Thee, Close to Thee, Close to Thee, Close to Thee;

All along my pilgrim journey, Savior, let me walk with Thee.”

 

 

  • When we get close to God, God will get close to us.
  • When we get close to God and are alone with God, we can get a Word from God.

 

John was on the isle of Patmos and he was alone. John didn’t see his loneliness as a stumbling block, but he saw it as a stepping-stone. John didn’t see being all alone as a curse or he didn’t get depressed because he was alone. But in his lonely hour John got close to God and God got close to him, and he was able to get a ‘Word from the Lord.’ In fact, the book of Revelation means, “A Word from the Lord.”

 

II.

 

(Eph. 5:23)

“For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church:

and he is the saviour of the body”

The man has a job to do as the head of the household. He brings about leadership; he brings about order, natural and spiritual. He brings about vision, “Without a vision, people perish.” God reveals to the man through prayer, the direction this God-centered home should take, not the woman. There are not two heads in a godly home. Anything with two heads is a creature feature, and bound for destruction. So I say to the men to lead their homes as God leads his Church. To the wives in respect of their husbands, this is the Head you prayed for, and wanted and God gave you this Head. This is the Head that God wanted you to have.  It doesn’t matter if it is a BIG HEAD or a little head, it is your head. Please don’t be banging yourself upside the Head and please don’t be kicking yourself in the Head. If you bang yourself in the Head, you crazy and you might injury yourself. Cause unnecessary swelling and your Head can’t function properly. Ladies your husband now and to be is your Head, don’t be disrespecting yourself.

 

(I Cor. 7:3-4)

“Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband. The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife.”

 

 

The world was dark and the world was dismal, we all were in disarray. As we all know, God saw the condition we were in and yet in many ways still are in and sent his only son, Jesus. Jesus although he saw our many faults and weakness, forgave us, feed us, healed us; and takes care of us. But ultimately he died for us. The bible declares, The man should love his wife just as Christ loves the Church. “

 

  • The man should be taking care of his wife.
  • The man should be seeing to it that his wife has whatever she needs.
  • Just like Jesus Christ, the man should go without, that the wife might have.

 

“I don’t know why he loved me

I don’t know why he cared

I don’t know why he sacrificed his life

But I am so glad that he did.”

 

When I get to this point in ministering to men about taking care of their wives. I always give honor to my mother for the tremendous amount of sacrificing she did in raising her children, all by herself. I always knew that just like every other woman my mother had needs and desires, but she didn’t put her needs and desires before her children. I honor her because I saw throughout the years while growing up in her home, how she went without a many day that we might have. The Lord speaks to the husbands in this world and says to them in loving their wives. “You go without, so that they might have.”

 

 

 

III.

I recently attended a fairytale wedding, the church sanctuary decor in boutiques, ribbons, and flowers. After the Bridesmaids and Groomsmen, Flower girls, and Ring bearer, the royal court, had promenaded the aisle and the “Queen for the Day” had fashioned to her King, the minister said these words.

One day while God was walking in the garden in the cool of the day, he saw Adam in his place, and God said, “ It is not good for man to be alone.” So God caused Adam to go into a deep sleep, and while in this deep sleep God took a rib from Adam’s side and with this rib God created a Woman (Eve), and brought her to Adam. God did not take the rib from Adam’s head that she might Lord over him. God did not take this rib from Adams feet, for Adam to step on. God did not take this rib from Adam’s back, that Adam would behave spineless, but God took this rib from Adam’s side. As to say I want Man and Woman, husband and wife to walk, side by side.

 

(Eph. 5:31)

“For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother,

 and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.”

 

In a Marriage relationship or in any relationship, it is important that the people involved walk side by side. Walking side by side is representative of people or a group of people being on one accord.

 

  • When we are on one accord the Lord will answer our prayer.

(Matt. 18:19)

“Again I say unto, that if two of you shall agree on earth as touching any thing that they shall ask, it shall be done for them of my Father which is in heaven.”

(I Pet. 3:7)

“Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life;

that your prayers be not hindered”

 

  • When we are on one accord, the Lord promises in his Word, that he will bless us from the crown of our head to the souls of our feet.

 

(Ps. 133)

“Behold, how good and how pleasant it is for brethren to dwell together in Unity! It is like the precious ointment upon the head, that ran down upon the beard, even Aaron’s beard: that went down to the skirts of his garments”

 

 

On the day of Pentecost when the disciples got on one accord, God filled every one of them with one of the greatest gifts available to mankind, and that is the Baptism of the Holy Ghost. (Acts 2:1-4)

 

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